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GAINMORE Advantedge Potential to Performance Success System – Alignment

Get your ducks lined up

Once we have determined our purpose and outcome for our communication, the next essential step is to organize our message for the audience.

How do you make sure that your message is organized?

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Where are you leading you to? 7 steps to your new goal

You already know that you really need to have a clear goal in your personal development as a leader. Without a goal you don’t know where you are going. And that’s exactly where you will end up… drifting somewhere… maybe it’ll be great, maybe it’ll be a waste of your time. Here are the 7 steps to your new leadership development goal:

Who is in your Inner Circle?

The people closest to you can raise you up or tear you down. Take a long hard look at those who are in your inner circle and fill it, if necessary with people who build you up.

Develop SMART goals in each area of your life.

Know specifically what your goal is, know how you will measure it, make sure that you can attain it (with the help of your inner circle). Make sure your goal is realistic (if someone else has done it, it is!) And put your stake in the ground for time. When will you achieve this goal? Can it change, sure it can… you can move the goal posts anytime you like.

Breakdown your bigger, longer term goals into smaller, shorter term chunks.

Any goal worth having is going to take time to reach. Breaking it down into smaller steps makes it much more manageable. I recommend that you “think week’ – after all you can pretty well predict a week ahead. But a month… that’s tough, all sorts of things could happen in a month. For example, establish steps that you will have completed by Friday each week (time to celebrate at the weekend!)

Work with an accountability partner. Check with your inner circle regularly to review your progress.

Wouldn’t it be nice if you could trust yourself to […]

Cognitive Distortions – How we distort our experiences

The language we use in everyday life both represents and impacts how we experience our world. We attempt to capture thoughts, ideas and to describe what we see around us using words. Inevitably, things get “lost in translation”.
We lose information through “Generalisations”, “Deletion” of information and “Cognitive Distortion”. Distortion is where some aspects of ideas and experiences are given more weight and focus than others. We all do this both consciously and unconsciously, and how we do this provides pointers to our underlying beliefs about ourselves, others and the world.

Top 10 Cognitive Distortions:
Which of these do you do? Check the areas below that you might like to discuss with your coach.

 All or Nothing Thinking: Seeing things as black-or-white, right-or-wrong wiith nothing inbetween. Essentially, if I’m not perfect then I’m a failure.

I didn’t finish writing that paper so it was a complete waste of time.

There’s no point in playing if I’m not 100% in shape.    Ÿ They didn’t show, they’re completely unreliable! 

Overgeneralization: Using words like always, never in relation to a single event or experience.

I’ll never get that promotion             Ÿ She always does that…

Minimising or Magnifying (Also Catastrophizing):
Seeing things as dramatically more or less important than they actually are. Often creating a “catastrophe” that follows.

Because my boss publicly thanked her she’ll get that promotion, not me (even though I had a great performance review and just won an industry award).

I forgot that email! That means my boss won’t trust me again, I won’t get that raise and my wife will leave me.

“Shoulds”: Using “should”, “need to”, “must”, “ought to” to motivate oneself, then feeling guilty when you don’t follow through (or anger and resentment when someone else doesn’t follow through).

I should have got the painting […]

Modes of Alignment #2 – Pull Mode

Please take caution with this post – it might change your life.

Pull Mode, unlike push mode, is about leadership and paying attention to growth and improvement.

Rather than focusing attention on problems to be solved or fixed or overcome, in Pull Mode we take time to clearly envision our future and allow the goal to pull us towards it. The results of Push Mode and Pull Mode may appear to be the same (that is the achievement of the goal) but Pull Mode takes less effort and allows our unconscious activity to take precedence over conscious linear processing.

The idea of Pull Mode is that you create a vision of the future that is so compelling for you (and perhaps for others) that you cannot help but be drawn towards it. The things that you need to do on the way become minor irritants that simply get done and anything that really is not important is not done and fades into insignificance.
“Hold on, what if something that is important is not recognised as being important?”
Excellent question. Things that appear to need to be done, whether important or not, on your journey are your friends – they are obstacles to your progress but think of them in terms of friends, or learning opportunities.

Let me take a personal example if I may. Two things about running a business that I personally do not enjoy:

    Doing the accounts.

I appreciate that some people just adore filing and doing the accounts but I don’t. In Push Mode, I resist doing them until I absolutely have to or, usually, risk a penalty. It is the penalty that drives me to do it. I still hate doing it but I dislike paying […]

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Modes of Alignment #1 – Push Mode

There’s a wealth of evidence that having goals and setting them is an important process. And that goals are best considered as performance goals rather than outcome goals – principally because a performance goal is something that the individual can be in charge, whereas an outcome is often dependent on other people and/or other things happening as well.

The difficulty with goal setting is not the process of setting or creating goals, it is ACTING on achieving those goals. The alignment mode you are in can make a substantial difference to your success or otherwise of achieving your goals. There are three major modes of alignment found in Mark Forster’s excellent book entitled “How to make your dreams come true”. These are “Push mode” , “Pull mode” and “Drift mode”- combined together as they often can be, creates a fourth type, one I call the “Pushmepullyou mode”.
Push mode

If you have to drive others towards an objective, even drive yourself towards it, I call this being in push mode.

The fun, creative or enjoyable things rarely make it onto a ‘todo’ list – rather there is a tendency to say that once the list is done and I have time, then I’ll do the fun stuff.

What’s more, you will already know that the things we pay attention to are the things that grow and the things we don’t pay attention to tend to fade away. So if we focus on problems (call them challenges or issues if you must but they are still the same thing), we will find that the problems grow. So here’s a radical thought, if we focus our attention on interesting, exciting, fun things, they will grow. And our problems, won’t they fade […]